Fourteen handy survivals for setting up a blind date
Are you planning for a blind date with someone to whom you have not met before, then you most discuss with a friend or friend of a friend that blind dates are hard. It doesn’t always turn out right in spite an exciting thought.
Earlier, blind date usually meant a mutual friend set you up, but now, apps and dating sites tend to do the legwork for us. it’s really no different than a “blind” date of yesteryear despite how much you’ve been texting, talking, or Snap chatting beforehand —the other party is still basically a stranger whom you don’t really know and that thought seems daring..
To that end, with a new potential partner the first IRL encounter should be handled with a high dose of openness and a low dose of expectations. On the other hand, if your date turns out to be an obnoxious loser, your hands are tied and you’ll have to endure them for the rest of the evening.
After all, it’s an adventurous experience that may just work in your favor. end the date You could with a new lover, or a good friend.
We’ve come up with fourteen handy survival steps to help you master the art of blind dating, to save you from those first-date jitters and have a perfect blind dating experience.
- Be sure that person knows you who are fixing you up.
What would be an awesome blind date? They will have a good handle if your matchmaker knows you, your values, likes and dislikes. Towards having a good experience communicating with your matchmaker about your proposed meeting will go a long way. Be up front and don’t be afraid to ask for a picture or description of your date. The more information you have in the beginning, the better it is in the end.
- Be equal parts curious and cautious.
One should be one of discovery because your mentality going into date number. You’re meeting this person to learn more about him or her and to see if you have chemistry. it’s good to be open but to balance that with being cautious, too, as you’ve never met this person before. Where you are tell your friends; tag your location on Facebook; choose a well-lit, busy place; and always meet your blind date at the location.
- Start with a phone call.
it is important to talk to your prospective date on the phone, listen to her voice, ask about her background and interests Before going out on a blind date, so when you go on that first date, though it’s blind, it’s not in the dark.
- Remember good hygiene.
Though it goes without saying, it’s impossible to be objective with yourself. As a result, you may have a hygiene problem and not know it. ASAP on the right track a good buddy can put you.
- Never drink before your date, Limit alcohol intake.
Though nerves can tempt you to take that one calming drink, override that impulse and meet your date with clarity.
- Skip doing dinner.
Having a first date at a white-tablecloth restaurant puts a lot of undue pressure on both parties, so choose a place that is casual. Remove the (kind of outdated) formality typically associated with a dinner date like Coffee shops, cafés, and pizzerias are all easy and no-pressure places. For the ‘dating interview’ Dinner dates set you up as you sit across from each other. “It can be expensive and time-consuming for someone that you’re not sure about yet.” Keep the formality for your next job interview, not your next blind date.
- Have fun.
For both of you find something new and interesting. From your phone conversations, you already have a heads up about her interests, likes and dislikes.
- Be authentic.
Second date will be because she likes you If you allow yourself to be the real you.
- Be positive.
Nobody likes a curmudgeon.
- Keep expectations low (no, really).
It can be really exciting meeting someone for the first time, especially if you’ve already developed some chemistry through texting or (no judgment) stalking his Insta profile. Still, if you build up a potential partner before you even meet, you might end up self-sabotaging by creating a person who can’t live up to your out-of-this-world expectations. “Go in with the goal of learning about this other person,” advises Ethridge. “If your goal is to learn about him, then you can always succeed.”
- Be generous.
Women read generosity as a reflection of a generous heart. For example, be generous with your feelings, be open, share your story, listen to hers… and pick up the bill.
- Dress for success.
Put on something you’re comfortable in, that you like, and that you don’t have to think about once you walk out the door. You emote confidence when you feel good about yourself, rather than insecurity and neediness.
- Don’t be quick to dismiss.
There’s some sort of magnificently great instant connection the second you sit down for drinks in the annals of blind date success stories. But for the rest of us takes time, to build the connection. Remember: Once you tell someone you’re “not feeling it,” it can’t be unheard. “You might not feel a true connection at the beginning or even on the whole first date,” says Ethridge. “But you may find it on the second or third.” That’s not to say you have to keep dating ad infinitum if you’re not into the person, but it’s good to give a date a solid try.
- Keep it short and sweet.
If you have chemistry the first date is more of an exploration to see, enjoy being with each other, and can build fun and friend rapport. But dates—just like food—have an expiration date. The longer the date goes on, the more difficult it becomes to keep up the energy. So to keep that energy going, keep the date between one and two hours. “You want to part with both parties excited to see the other again, not exhausted after hours of conversation.”
