Follow 5 Skills to Master of Online Dating
Religious Online dating sites is no different. There are five specific skills you must learn in order to ensure you can schedule first dates with women you find at least cute (using four-level attractiveness scale of ugly, average, cute, or hot).
If you can’t schedule dates or Blind date online, or you can only schedule them with women you find ugly or average, that means you are lacking in one or more of these skills. Knowing what these skills are will help identify where you need to bolster your efforts.
One clarification needed! As always, when Blinddate.com’s editor say “online dating,” we only refer to the online religious portion of the interaction. religious Online dating, as we use the term, begins when you sign up on a religious dating websites or app and then ends the split second to meet up with that woman in real life you walk into the bar or coffee shop. At that point, religious online dating is over and begins the real-life game. Getting laid via religious online dating requires online dating skill and real-life dating skill. (For you touchy Thrill of the Hunt types, you’re right, it’s still not a cold approach, so in the past we’ve called it “dating game” for lack of a better term.)
This breakdown is represented in my overall dating system chart here:
So here you must learn the five master skills for religious online dating, that is, your ability to use dating sites / apps to schedule first dates with women you find at least cute whenever you need to.
They are listed in no particular order, since they are all required.
- Photo Skill
Notice we said “photo skill” and not “photography.” We don’t know shit about photography. We just know how to construct a photo that makes me look as good as humanly possible without actually having to Photoshop it. That’s what photo skill is.
Having good photo skill means you know how to have photos with the best colors, clothing and background for you (since every guy is different in this regard). It means you know how to stand, sit, or pose. It means you know what lighting and depth of field is best for your face and body. It means you know how to reflect your ideal persona and which way to construct your photos, as we describe in detail in The Ultimate Online Dating Manual.
To online dating Photo skill is absolutely critical and you will get nowhere without it. Due to photos suck many good-looking guys get murdered with religious online dating.
- Profile Writing
This is much less important than it used to be, since on many swipe apps lots of women won’t even look at your written profile and will instead decide to respond to your swipe/opener based on your photos alone (and the younger she is, the more this tends to be true). It’s still important though, since many women do read profiles, or at least glance at them looking for red flags.
Being good at profile writing means you can write a religious online dating profile that doesn’t piss her off (by being too controversial or assholeish), turn her off (by acting too intellectual or nerdy; a huge problem with guys online), or bore her (more an issue with younger girls).
Doing any one of these things will terminate an interested woman instantly even if she liked your photos. This means you must write to avoid these problems. That’s what profile writing is all about.
- Online Communication
Except the margin online communication skill is similar to real-life communication skill for error is lower. You can fuck up a little on a real-life first date by saying something stupid or weird, but if you do this while communicating to a woman on a religious dating site/app, you may lose her instantly.
Thus, online communication skill is about being friendly but not boring, funny but not silly or immature, and extremely outcome independent. Failure to do any one of those things, and you’re done.
Writing paragraphs of text to her? Too needy and outcome dependent.
Closing means you pitch the real-life date, correctly, at the right time, and lay the logistical foundations so that it has the highest odds of actually occurring.
You don’t want to pitch the date too soon (common problem with guys on swipe apps) or pitch it too late (common problem with guys on religious online dating sites).
In a very safe you also need to pitch it, no-big-deal way. The guy who wants her to come right over for sex fails here, just like the beta male who invites her out for a classy, 1950s dinner date. Both of these are high-pressure offers and are not good ideas (unless you’re choosing to do something very different outside of my system).
Once she agrees, you also need to make sure the logistics are in place. You’ll need her phone number and vice versa. You’ll need her to double-check the time so she didn’t forget about some other commitment. You’ll need to ensure the place you’re going is actually going to be open when you guys meet there, and so on.
Closing is critical! Too many guys screw this up!
Too many guys think that once the date is scheduled and agreed to, your job is done, and all you need to do is just show up.
Ha HA! Ohhhhhhhh no, no, no, no. We’re talking about women here. Women are flakey, and that includes older women and more intelligent women, by the way. Flakiness is part of being a woman like horniness is part of being a man; it’s built into the biology (unfortunately).
It’s your job to follow up with her as many times as is needed (based on how long it will be until you actually have your first date/meet). This ensures that the first date will have the highest odds of actually occurring.
If you’re good at follow-up, even if she cancels or reschedules, you can likely still meet up and have sex.
There you have it, in order to schedule first dates the five skills you must have with cute women whenever you want.