For many people, putting together a dating profile the easy part (although, believe me, there are many who think that this task is almost impossible). They are afraid that they are not interesting and will be sad to mandates. But let me tell you something: it's just thoughts, and your thoughts are not facts. The fear is real, I get it, I have felt it many times! Remember that your opponent is likely to be just as nervous as you are, even if you do not see it!
As a coach, I listen more than I talk. It is also a strategy that works well if you find yourself nervous. People, in general, love to talk about themselves. So, to take the pressure off, arm yourself with some great questions to ask during the meeting.
Remember that genuine interest makes all the difference. You do not have all the answers to all questions either. There is a beauty in peeling back the layers and getting to know someone, and it's something that can really take a lifetime!
Here are 17 questions that I want to get under a Date:
Name something you wish you'd known 20 years ago?
What is the best advice you ever received?
If you are not going to stay where you are now and you could choose anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
Who is your role model? Who inspires you?
Who is your best friend, and what do you like about him / her?
What are you reading right now?
What is your favorite way to spend the weekend?
What do you do in your spare time?
What was the last movie you saw that touched you / did you laugh out loud / inspired you?
Who has had the greatest influence on your life so far? (Parent / grandparent / teacher / boss / colleague?)
What are 5 things you could not live without? (Not oxygen, water, or world peace, there will be things that you carry in your purse / wallet all the time!)
What is your dream job if you do not currently have it?
Where do you go when you want to feel calm / joy / happiness?
Tell us something about yourself that would surprise me.
What is your proudest moment in your life so far?
If you had 24 hours to do what you wanted in your city, what would you do?
What is the biggest risk you've ever taken?